Job interview performance psychology, writer's block, and uncoachable players 🎮 AskWeldon 252

hello and welcome to the ask Weldon Show episode 252 job interview performance psychology writer's block and changing your coaching philosophy for uncoachable players question mark those are the questions for today remember you can call in your own question to the show by going to anchor FM slash Weldon green slash messages I think the link will be below this video on YouTube or somewhere else in the video it'll be written out and you can always catch the show live on slash my name is Weldon where I am doing it right now hello twitch chat and I usually do it and answer twitch chat questions before and after the show so if you wanna come there please join us let's jump into the first question from Cory hey I have an interview tomorrow with a QA consultant analyst position with Aetna I'm stopping for some interview tips it's about three and a half times my salary I'll be getting curly alright so I I like this question because it hits at the applicability of sports psychology as it has now started to shift around to other fields so sports psychology started in I think the 60s maybe a little bit earlier kind of as a formal field and mainly in the USSR and then in America maybe shortly thereafter around the same time I'm a bit murky on the and the very very beginnings but I know that the push from it was you know within the last within the last 60 70 years and it's come to be more and more around the idea of performance psychology in fact there talk there's a there's open debate about changing the name of the field from sport psychology to performance psychology because the principles that are uncovered and that were discovered in the pursuit of sport psychology apply equally well to situations like music performance public speaking even some of the therapies are used in things like when people have performance issues for sex and and stuff like that with also a performance moment so this is kind of a wide-ranging field and the fact the principles apply or the ones that actually are about performance psychology and not sport psychology apply equally to job interviews is no surprise so I guess the fundamental precepts of performance of any performance would be to lean into the pressure so the pressure is getting to you and instead of trying to avoid it or lower the pressure or escape from the pressure you lean into it meaning that you anticipate it hunger for it see it as amping you up instead of freaking you out the butterflies in your stomach are not nerves the butterflies in your stomach are the pre-performance chemicals like getting your adrenaline ready so that you can answer your questions better than if you didn't have the adrenaline I think that because it's a seated thing it's very similar to video game performance where you're gonna need to not you're not amping yourself up in carb-loading and like putting a ton of caffeine in your body so that you can get fast off the starting blocks like you would for a sprint but rather you're trying to maintain an equilibrium so you're gonna want to do a little bit of making sure you're breathing well you know don't overload on caffeine maybe mix it in with tea or take some l-theanine to mix with your caffeine so that you're not jittery but rather you're just calm and focused and fast and snappy always pause and collect yourself before you jump into the answer so that you kind of know what it is that you want to say take that moment of space find the space within the interview to to think things through and aim for a solid performance rather than the quick-witted retort right so instead of just trying to instinctively say the first thing like make sure it's what you really want to say when you want to say it I think that there was a if you've ever watched froggen who was a really old school players currently on golden Guardians in the LCS he was one of the few players at the beginning of the game that used skill shot markers instead of quickcast and he said at the time now I of course he uses quickcast as just everybody right but the time he said it doesn't matter if I can shoot this skill shot faster if I miss it I'd rather shoot one accurate skill shot then miss like 10 you know or even miss one when you're in a clutch situation so he would always use indicators and understand that he was a bit slower but more accurate and with that principle he was able to you know conquer the world more or less and even go 5 games against a Korean championship team in one of the early tournaments and tournaments in Korea all right so that's essentially yeah that's basically it find your space make sure that you are leaning into the pressure and mmm take a few deep breaths nothing really you know extravagant there's not really science around it that is that is like imagery based you know and all that sort of stuff I mean the problem with most of the techniques that I would recommend is that it takes long periods of training for them to have a sort of discernible effect within the performance so most of it is irrelevant if you have an interview tomorrow so yeah that's uh mainly what I recommend okay announcements we just clinched playoffs go CLG and I think that's about it I missed a day of streaming and I almost missed today too except I stayed late after the game to stream it so we're gonna have basically this is supposed to be a daily show but I can't really guarantee that given how crazy my life is when I have a full-time job and the kids it was a lot easier to do when I'm still just a consultant so we'll keep attempting that and if I miss a day please forgive me alright that's about it for announcements let's jump into question number 2 from Timothy hey do you have any tips on getting over writer's block I feel as though I have lots of cool ideas and my mind is running a mile a minute whatever I'm walking around or lying down but when I sit down to write my mind goes blank and it feels like I'm pulling teeth to get anything out thanks all right so believe it or not I used to teach a course at University of avascular for a number of years on on performance psychology for writers basically how to get over writer's block so for them the first thing to do was work was we worked on identity a lot of them were researchers or they were scientists or they were sociologists or they were psychologists but they didn't really identify as writers and so I just confronted them and I was like hey how is it that you get paid we're like oh well you know I do my research and I was like no how is it you get paid and they were like hey well you know the university gives me a salary and I was like okay well what would cause you to get more salary or what we caused you them to stop higher paying your salary or like what are the physical reportable things that they see that metric whether or not you get paid or not and they're like publishing articles like so you're a writer you're a paid writer you perform you you produce a piece of writing and you get paid for it all the stuff that goes into it that might be your actual job and your career in expertise but like at the end of the day you're a paid writer they're like no I'm not I was like okay well for this class you are and then were like yeah you're right okay for the intensive purposes of that it's actually true this is the producible discernible impact or effect of like what I do so what you need to understand Timothy is like ideas in your head are very irrelevant to the world and to the act of writing lots of people have ideas in their head and yours are special and you have them but translating ideas in your head to the page is what a writer does it is the job and skill and act of writing and it is a it is a job and it is a skill and it is something you get better at with practice so if you have great ideas but no production of them then you need to work on that skill and so I would start by assigning like an identity to yourself being like okay I want to be a writer what I want to acquire is the skill of a very and with an exceptional prose translating the ideas that I have into something that brings a reader through an adventure that like I see and feel in my head before they go through it like you're preparing right once you see that as like that's the thing that you want to do then the second thing I do is like I would erase the idea of writer's block from your mind because that brings about this mentality that writing is some sort of like mystical gift from some muse or something or from like the essence of the earth or whatever it is from the air and that you're a conduit or a channel and then all you have to do is exist with the idea and a piece of paper and it's somehow poof's onto there but that's not really how it is what it really is is you have like these concepts you must translate them into language you must remember that language long enough to like get it out on a page construct good sentences choose prose deal with alliteration deal with plot deal with description deal with all the stuff that like isn't contained within the idea that you have but you must build around and within your writing word choice and all this stuff and when you're writing of course all of this is sweaty work it's effortful work it's stuff where you gotta like drink a bunch of caffeine make sure you get good sleep you know it's it's your work for the day and after four hours you're gonna be exhausted and the other things you want to do that a day should be like recreational right that kind of work I mean like the kind that actually uses your fuel and once you have that mentality around it then you can start doing things like alright I'm gonna work for 30 minutes I'm gonna go on to writing blogs like those groups and blogs by Brandon Sanderson and his friends and I think Nani rhyme oh there's all sorts of like different sci-fi and fantasy writing communities around which people are always writing short fiction you can learn all sorts of things about how a lot of writers will do just like keeping the juices flowing stuff where they'll just have writing prompts in the right morning about some nonsense thing that has nothing to do with their thing and and I think that for me that would be the first kind of set of steps if you've already done that I apologize I can't really get the context on you from your question so that that would be my starting point because that's just my assumption please come back and give me another question if you've spent years as a writer and you're already a member of all those communities and you already do a lot of short fiction and you already write writing prompts you know every couple days if you already do go through all those kind of like activities and exercises and then put your question like in that context and then I can take the next step after that because believe me I have a lot of material since a like I said I used to teach a course on that all right thank you for that wonderful question I get to go back to that phase in my life it's really fun teaching that class actually all right speaking of classes this is the Mac program this is a class that I teach online it's composed of 49 online videos that take you through mindfulness acceptance commitment which are the three parts of the process of mental resilience in performance that contains a lot of stuff that would be applicable for example in Corey's job interview but that need training that need time and a certain like perception and education to take effect and so I started telling this course on the internet in 2015 and this is about the third version of it it's currently a little patchy because it references some little activities and stuff that are not necessarily below the videos anymore since this is the second iteration of a broken website that I'm like limping to but all of the videos are there and this is actually where all of the meant that changes the important stuff that it's measurable in the brain takes place so the essence and the most important aspects of a class this is just a few worksheets here and there that are missing and I'm not replacing those because I'm basically spending all of my time turning this into an app where everything will be not like this separate kind of course experience but more encoded as a as an interactive as an interactive app with a bunch of content and tools in it so for now that's where my focus is which is why if you want to get the course now you'll essentially same as always you'll be getting access forever which means when the app comes out you'll be jumping right into it just with permanent lifetime access that's kind of the way that I do it then although that will probably be going away when the app comes out since the app is gonna move towards apps take money on a regular basis to maintain so it's more of a subscription kind of thing usually for apps but anyway now's your chance check it out it's at mind games IgG /m AC and you should use the code ask Weldon to show that you came from YouTube and get the five dollar discount that goes along with it alright let's jump into the last question of the show from Scott do you have any examples from your career where you had to change your approach philosophy or coaching style in order to motivate a team or player and what were the results of making this change alternatively were there ever any players that you found you couldn't connect to and properly motivate and if so how did you try to connect with that player or did you ever alright thank you Scott for that great question so yes there have been players that I have not been a good enough coach to coach and that is basically the way that I see it right I don't think that players are uncoachable I think there are certainly players that have very difficult backgrounds their players they're difficult with specific coaches to work with and not for others etc kind of depending on the coach's style and their own background how much rapport they can build with that person and for me definitely there are a number of athletes that are difficult for me to work with and challenge me to become a better coach and a hundred percent always you should be adapting improving and changing your philosophy to kind of help motivate players in the way that they need to be motivated not it doesn't necessarily need me to change my philosophy so philosophically I'm basing a lot of the my coaching philosophy on scientific findings so just because a player is a difficult or different or comes from a from a challenging background or has a challenging structure in the way that they approach the idea of coaching and stuff it doesn't invalidate science which just says this is what motivates people and this isn't and so I don't really need to change my philosophy it's more like I need to get better at technique and the applied aspects of like bringing that philosophy to life right so there's a lot of adaptation there between the techniques the drills and the ways that I interface with players and how much bravery I have for conflict of certain styles so it really is just more like this is happening every single day a hundred times in little moments here and there and I'm always constantly striving to do it better I think that would be a better way to I mean I think that that's essentially the answer to your question is that yes constantly tens to hundreds of times per day and that is the act of coaching and coach development is what you've just described so any I think coaches that are static and don't change first of all they aren't really coaches they're they're just people who happen to be doing coaching while they're preparing for some other career maybe and then people who think that that's the way coaches are also are incorrect just FYI and I'm saying that you're you're wrong what I'm saying is that you should have a perception of a coach as somebody who is constantly taking a philosophy that is true and universal usually and then and then trying to figure out and develop techniques to apply it and and in help to modify the behavior of any person that they come across that is within their scope right on their team or or whatever they have to so it's about it's just about that and that's kind of like an art if you think of it that way the meshing of behavior modification for an individual and your philosophy that's that's where the artistry of coaching is and that's what that's what coaches who love coaching really love is that kind of is that thing that constant thinking about it and doing that so yeah that gave me a chance to give us you feel about coaching and coaches so thank you for that question I hope the answer was interesting and as always call in your questions anchor dot F M / Weldon green / message you can find the link below this video or online and thanks for tuning the show I will see you guys tomorrow make sure to check out the Mac program Mac

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