How to Make Writer Friends with Lily Meade

Hi! My name is Lily Meade, and today I’m guest vlogging for bookishpixie! Ava will be back next week, but today I’m
here to talk to you about networking. Writing is often a really solitary job, no
matter whether you’re pursuing self or traditional publication, networking is an useful—if
at times overwhelming—skill to learn. Networking is a fancy business term for making connections. Developing relationships with people in your field is the easiest way to get ahead in a crowded market. The word “networking” itself can feel intimidating. It’s easier to face and think about if you
look at it simply as building friendships. Networking is little more than socializing
with people in your industry. Friends can promote and boost each other, as well as be a sympathetic and understanding ear when you’re struggling. This is also a good way to find critique partners. Start by making friends on your level. If you don’t have an agent yet, look up critique partner match-ups or Twitter pitch contests like PitchWars and Author Mentor Match. If you are agented, reach out to other writers within your agency, and if you have a book deal, reach out to fellow authors releasing
the same year. You want to start low and small, quality over quantity is the goal here. You won’t be able to juggle fifteen new friendships at once, and if you’re trying to befriend a famous bestseller when you aren’t even agented, it’s probably going to ring false. That doesn’t mean you can’t have friendships with people more influential than you. The key is to make sure that they are genuine connections—don’t try and force anything. The trickiest part is figuring out where to
seek connections. The cheapest and easiest place is online. Twitter is a great literary connector. It’s increasingly political nowadays, but
most things are. It’s still a great place—if not the best
place—for book and author connections from anything to sharing sneak peeks of your work in progress, to potentially life-changing pitch contests. Start small by following your friends, favorite authors, and some dream agents, and figure out your groove by observing others. The cool thing about Twitter is it allows
you to go your own pace. If you have anxiety, or if you just don’t
have a lot of time to dedicate to social media, you can still have quick, but meaningful conversations with virtually anyone. A more expensive, but just as effective way to meet fellow writers is by attending local author events or book signings, joining a
local book club, or attending industry conferences. If you live in a larger city, it might be
worth researching if there’s a pre-established author group already set up that you can join. But if you live in a rural area, or you just
can’t afford to go out that often, online friendships are just as real and valuable
as their in-person counterparts. Don’t worry about the distance. A good way to connect with people bigger than you is to think about what you can offer them. A good way to impress someone is by offering to help them with a skill that you have, like graphic design, for example. You should always be prepared to hear “no,” but it’s worth a try. That’s how Ava and I connected. I offered a collaborative video idea on chronic illness and writing, topics that we both relate to. And that led to two very awesome videos, and the start of an even more awesome friendship. That friendship is what has brought me here to speak to you today, proof positive that networking works. What’s your best tip for making writer friends? Let us know in the comments. Thanks again to Ava for letting me fill in
this week. I make weekly videos about writing, inspiration, and books on my own channel, if you’d like to check that out. Thank you so much. Bye!

15 thoughts on “How to Make Writer Friends with Lily Meade

  1. Twitter is awesome. Try , #amwriting because the results are good. I didn't realise the video was on Ava's channel at first, because I subscribe to you both. 😃 x

  2. Does not using social media doom your chances at getting an agent? I ask because my regular job keeps me busy and if I'm free at all, I'm busy writing or outlining.

  3. This is such an important topic! Great post. I truly believe my success has come largely from the writer and author community I've built. We can write alone but we cant get published alone – or succeed alone! One way is to join a genre-based organization in the genre you write in – and volunteer. This helps you make loads of new friends and network with all kinds of publishing professionals. Thanks for reminding writers about the importance of building community. 🙂

  4. Man I wish I had someone to give me honest critique. I have no friends that will tell me the negatives I need to hear

  5. I really agree with your point about making friends with a genuine connection! 😀 Thanks for the awesome tips. They're really helpful! 😀

  6. Does anyone want to be my writer buddy? Preferably if you're social justice friendly. I don't care what genre you write in, I'm willing to help with anything.

  7. I don't have Twitter, but I'm a writer who doesn't really have any writer friends. Who wants to discuss writing right here?

  8. Here is a ~sneak peak~ of my FANFICTION b00k FROM RED QUEEN

    Coriane seriously debated picking at her meal. She also wanted to pocket a few gold inlaid forks, but decided not to as House Merandus was directly facing her across the table. Julian Jacos had told her that if anyone, anyone at all, decides to sneak into her mind, then she should feel the brush of an unfamiliar mind against her own. But she decided not to take risks. For all she knew, Elara Merandus was staring rigid at her, reading her thoughts.
    "I don't know why she lets it," said a voice.


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