Dangerous Books For Girls: The Bad Reputation Of Romance Novels Explained

36 thoughts on “Dangerous Books For Girls: The Bad Reputation Of Romance Novels Explained

  1. Romance novels are sexual fantasy for women, the same way that pornography is sexual fantasy for men. Why the double standard ? Everyday men are insulted for watching pornographic material, because its demeaning to women, involves exploitation etc…even if the porn is an anime (where no REAL women are involved).

    Yet we are supposed to praise romance novels as high art ? Women get off on ideas. The protagonist is always tall, perfectly fit, hung like a tree, rich like Christian Grey and instinctly knows exactly how to touch her so that they can climax together ( and the scenes are graphically described.

    It's same thing.

  2. While I agree that romance novels are unnecessarily hated on by people, and that it's important to not generalize, I do not consider romance novels to be any more inherently feminist than any other genre. In fact, I have read and heard about plenty of romance novels that are definitely anti-feminist, regardless of some people claiming they are. (See: Fifty Shades of Grey.)

    On the surface, yes, it seems that the women in the stories have a choice, but in many cases they don't. The hero will act like a complete asshole to the heroine and stalk, harass, and even rape her in some cases. When he does rape her, it's not treated like rape because she orgasms. It doesn't scare me so much that these stories are enjoyed. Fantasy, after all, is fantasy. What scares me is that I have encountered a lot of readers who insist that the hero isn't abusive. They don't realize that the hero is abusive because they've been told that this is what a healthy relationship looks like.

    I know, of course, unlike Mr. Lane down there, that there are excellent and very feminist-friendly romance novels. Unfortunately, the ones mainstream society hears about the most are the bad ones. I think the genre is devalued precisely because it is mostly written by women. And yes, I can see how women enjoying their sexuality and going on adventures could indeed be considered "dangerous."

    Thank you for this thought-provoking video. I enjoyed it!

  3. I always like reading about a strong woman out there doing for herself and if she meets a man good, bad or whatever she is independent. Loving a man doesn't mean you have to give up yourself to have a happily ever after. Love a good romance or Fiction,.

  4. Maya, I just released a novel on Kindle called "The End of Summer Chastity" You can download it for free this week only. I'm posting here because I think you 'might' like it. 
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    -Ethan

  5. Just like not all non-romance novels are not good writing, some romance novels are not neither. However, not all romance is smut either. The idea behind romance novels is that is allows women (or men) to hope. And, no, not all modern romances are women waiting for men to solve all their problems. Most romance heroines are strong and make their own choices despite the man being there. The romance novel gives hope of union and commitment. 

  6. Its funny how this woman keeps talking about how women  were oppressed in the past but not realizing that modern day romance novels tells women to wait for a man to solve all of their problems as they passively lay in wait. FAIL.

  7. Hahahahahahaha, no. I'm sorry but as a librarian that is purest historical revisionism. We mock romance novels because they are mock worthy. They are poorly written, poorly executed, poorly plotted, base level escapism fiction of the worst & derivative kind: If you've read one, you've read them all .

    Even the penny dreadfuls were better written, as were the pulp fiction novels they evolved into.

    Thats why the amount of romance novelists who can hack it in the mainstream world as authors can be counted on a single hand of a three fingered man, without resorting to using thumbs.

    Heck even contemporary comic book writers are better writers than romance novelists.

  8. I was SO interested in your take on Romance Novels but unfortunately the music was so loud that I couldn't hear part of what you were saying. Bummer!

  9. I'm very impressed. I'd insert a lot of compliments here but I am speach-less.your presentation is engaging and thought provoking.

  10. Fact Check: The window tax had literally nothing to do with reading. It was a way to tax income (wealthier people could afford more windows) without actually instigating an income tax.

  11. Thank you all so much for your comments and for taking the time to watch the video. Happy reading, happy writing and viva la romance revolution! 🙂

  12. Well, this is one of the tightest, most quickly educational treatments of this discussion I've heard/read/seen yet. I've been part of the academic debate concerning romance for over twenty years now and this 4 minute video is worth many books I've read. Let's get right down to it — romance means empowerment, something those already in power fear. Thank you to all those scribbling women before us!

  13. Believe it or not I started to cry. Thinking of all those girls in India and all over the world not able to choose their own husbands. Write more romance, read more romance, believe in the romance. For our sisters's in other cultures still dreaming of this basic right. The right to bestow their hearts.

  14. When I was in high school, I didn't like romance novels because they weren't written well and I wanted to read Horror. But Mum didn't like me wanting to read horror… so… I borrowed a romance novel off a friend and got halfway through it before asking Mum a question about it and she snatched it off me calling it smut! She let me read horror… but not romance. I haven't picked up romance until now and I'm almost 40.

  15. I… this is wonderful! 🙂
    I will admit that I used to be one of the people who, because it was what I knew, scoffed at romance novels. I was also a child raised on Disney Princess movies.
    Once I grew into a hopeless romantic and realized just how, well, awesome romance novels and their associated heroines were, I laughed in the face of the "those kind of books" label and have yet to turn back.
    This video was incredibly informational and downright awesome. 😀
    Thank you for creating it.

  16. I really didn't think I'd like this video when I first started watching it. Thanks for proving me wrong with an awesome and informative vid!!!!

  17. I'm a 52-year-old male, remaining virgin until marriage. Is there a romance novel where I find the love of my life before growing too decrepit and we get married and live happily ever after?

  18. Love this! It is utterly amazing how romance novels are STILL something to be ashamed of reading even today. IMHO, the main reason that e-readers have become so popular is so that people can read what the heck they want to without being condemned for it. Wish more people would take a stand for the Happily Ever After!

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